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When he tells you that you're difficult to love

When he treats you like an art project
When he wants to remake and remodel you into the image of his ideal woman
When he can't see you, can't see who you really are because he is looking at the shattered pieces of your soul and not realising that sum of your parts is greater than the whole.

When he can't see past the horrors of your past
When he thinks they define who you are
When he can't see that they make you stronger, that the pain is temporary
When he can't see that you'll come out of this hell
Leave

Leave before you start to believe his lies
Leave, pack your bags, get up, god damn just leave!
Leave before you begin to think you're too difficult to love
Run or you'll start to think you're damaged goods
Escape before you swallow his narrative
That his version of your happiness is what you're supposed to be
And his assessment of your character, who you are.
You'll believe the lie. You'll try to conform but you won't succeed
Because deep down buried underneath all his bullshit, you still know who you are.

When you ignore the nagging feeling that this isn't really how love is supposed to be
When you try to mold yourself into who he wants you to be
When you finally loose sight of the real you
Breath

Breath, inhale, exhale.
In, out, just breath
You can't see which way is up
Or who you've become
Breath, because it's only a matter of time before you leave

And leave you will
You'll leave your heart behind but you'll leave
You'll be confused and shattered
But you'll walk away
You'll cry yourself to sleep
You'll spend nights thinking you've made the biggest mistake of your life
You'll want to go back but you won't
Just breath

One day you'll realise you were right
You'll find yourself again
You'll remember how loving yourself was as easy as breathing
You'll let go of the self-contempt.
You'll be free to give and receive love again
You'll see you're not difficult to love.

When you finally ask him "for closure"
He'll admit that objectively you're fine but he just wanted you to be happy and well
When he tells you you're difficult to love
You'll be angry, you'll be fuming, irate, livid
You'll want to cut him down with your words, hold your tongue
Walk away, pick up your heart and walk away.
You finally see the full picture, what he is and who you are.
When he says you're difficult to love
You'll know it's a lie.
Fuck him!!

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