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Young and Stupid

 "I was young and stupid." That was the response he gave me as to why he raped my friend back in uni. I can't help but wonder how he thinks that response would suffice or appease. I don't know what or how to respond to his pleas for absolution when the last time I saw him, I was with her and all he said to her was "It didn't end well with us".  I'm not the one he should be even talking to about this.

I officially met him three years ago, I thought he was smooth, had swag and hot as a tamalie! It turns out he's had his eye on me for years but I was in a relationship so I shut that down. Fast forward to last month I run into him at Chopsi's and he was all up in my space, insisted on my number. This time I was single, so I thought why not, he's still got it.

When he walked away one of my girls tell me he raped her in her first year. I was shook. I ignored his call when he called three days later and then he calls me again last night, this time I pick up. His ex just dumped him two days ago and he is calling me, talking about how he has a vision for his life and he wants me in it. I've always been the one, blah blah blah. He claims he wants me to have his kid, who even says I want kids?

Side note: Since when has it been considered romantic to tell a woman you want her to have your kid? I don't understand, someone please explain this logic to me. I'm asking.

I ask him about it and not to lie to me because I believe her and heard what he said to her.
His response is that he was young and stupid.  He's changed and he's grown since then.

Young and stupid, he said he was young and stupid.


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